Guess what? We have a big girl now. Yeah, yeah, yeah, she’s three, she’s BEEN a big girl, right?
Yes, after having slept in her crib for over three years, after having that sucker assembled in this turquoise room for nearly four years, Piper’s crib was dismantled on Saturday night.
So many moms I know get so excited about creating a new “big kid” space for their kids. Usually these mothers are urged on because they have another little one on the way and who the hell needs two cribs? I admit, since I had hoped to need this crib by now to hold a baby, I was kind of dragging my feet. Piper slept so soundly in her crib every night, and never once had she attempted to climb out. Why would I change that?
Well, because our big girl is now potty trained. Well, “potty trained”. She still wears pullups for bedtime and naps, but all in all she uses the potty for all the other times- not to mention her pullups being dry when she wakes, she’s essentially potty trained. I mean, not only did she get her big girl bed this weekend, but she also successfully told me she had to pee in two stores yesterday, AND Ikea on Saturday. It kind of sucked to have to hustle from one end of Target/Vons all the way to the restroom area, but my pride was bursting. She’s such a big girl. So, in case she got the need to pee while she was sleeping, we decided that she needed a bed she can get in and out of on her own in case she called and I didn’t wake up in time to take her. I’d hate to have her feel badly about herself because her dumb-ass mother didn’t get to her in time and she peed herself. Now she’s free to get down and go by herself if need be.
We’d been playing up getting her big girl bed all week. We went online and looked at various places, and brought up Ikea’s site so Piper could look at the choices they had there. She was so excited. She woke up on Saturday saying, “We need to go before it’s too late!”
Paul, Piper and I gathered ourselves together and headed out. She climbed on each display bed they had out, and asked me to be sure to wake her when it’s time to get up. Each time I’d wake her and she’d say, “What? Where am I? *Yawn*” complete with a start of the morning stretch and a “Good morning!”. This girl is going to be an actress someday.
Eventually it was down to two beds- the Sundvik in white. $124.00
And the Gulliver, also in White. $139.00
Paul liked the Gulliver and I liked the Sundvik. I really liked that we didn’t need to add a side rail, and I thought the Gulliver just didn’t “go” with Piper’s room. To me, the Gulliver looked just like the Gulliver crib, just lower and missing a side. I wanted Piper’s new bed to be a BED. To look like a little version of a bed. When it came down to the final decision, we stood Piper between them and asked which one she liked better. She chose the Sundvik all on her own, no prompting from me at all.
So, once we chose that, it was time to choose a mattress. They have foam only mattresses and foam and spring mattresses, a few of which are for the “extendable” beds (meaning you just add an extra pad in when you extend it).
We didn’t really deliberate on this one, we wanted the best one they had, the Vyssa Vackert. $79.99
The mattress was a spring/foam blend and we felt skimping on the mattress isn’t something to even think about. She spends 11 or more hours in that bed, might as well get a comfy one.
After that, we chose her sheets. Well, we let HER choose her sheets.
These are the two sets we have started her sheet collection with.
Next, Piper chose this one. The Vandring Skogsliv. $14.99
We finally got downstairs (I swear, Ikea is like a casino- no clocks, no windows, just random staircases and elevators with very random floors it goes to) and was all set to pick up our stuff when I remembered- Um, we have two duvet covers and no duvet. Paul hustled up to the duvet section while Piper and I relaxed and ate our snacks in the “waiting for pickup” area.
Finally we got all packed up and set off towards home where Piper was begging her Daddy to build her big girl bed. Paul quickly set about dismantling the crib. Luckily, I was busy in the living room with Piper so I didn’t have to tearfully stand by watching our daughter’s home for the last 3 years get broken down piece by piece. Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE that Piper is so excited for her new space. LOVE it. And I love that I get to kind of get some little things to make her bed hers (little decals or reusable stickers, that kind of thing), but it’s a little sad because in changing her room up, we tossed out some of her baby things that we had been saving for Baby #2. These are things like an old exersaucer, old baby toys we can just buy new (or borrow), things that haven’t been used in over two years.
I guess tossing them out was kind of a step for me. While we are keeping the five tubs of clothes Piper has outgrown (and a lot of her unisex things were passed down to friends), and her swings and bouncy seat, it’s time for me to let go. Holding on to an exersaucer isn’t going to guarantee we have another baby. It DOES guarantee too much crap in a little girl’s room. So if we have another baby, fine, we’ll get a new one. I can’t hold on to stuff with the thought that we may get to use it again someday. And who knows? Maybe by the time we have another baby, things will be much cooler… you know, like flying automobiles and teleportation.
So, Paul dragged Piper’s things out by the trash (the exersaucer can be picked up, but it was old when WE got it, so doubtful anyone will want it), and we moved on to our life as parents of a young girl. We picked up new underwear, new socks, and clothes in a bigger size. We walk past her toy every time we have to drop off a baggie of Woofie-poop, and she always gets excited when she sees it. “Oh! My toy!” She runs over to it, twirls it around and plays the little musical things. Piper sighs a little and asks why it’s out there again. I try to tell her, “It’s here so other people who can’t afford toys can take it home for their babies.” She doesn’t quite get that yet, you know, how some people can have toys and others can’t. While I’m glad she doesn’t seem to notice other people have it “better” than she does, I do want her to realize how incredibly lucky she is. Hopefully that will come in time.
It was a big weekend for us all. Paul and I can now sit next to Piper to read stories, and it’s so much easier to give her lots of kisses in this new bed. Each night she runs to get inside and asks us to tuck her in. For the first time in her life, she has her own comforter. She’d previously been covered by her two blankets and another little throw. Now she’s got a bed that she’s SO proud of. This morning my mom came to watch her, and the second she came inside Piper dragged her into her room to show her a surprise. I got a phone call later from Piper IN her bed. My mom was reading her stories and she was getting nice and snuggly. It makes me happy to see how much she loves her new room. It’s also very funny to see that she’s still in the crib mindset. She doesn’t understand that she has the freedom now to get out of it and investigate the house while the world is sleeping. She just knows that once she’s in bed she stays there until we get her. Her little friends fall the six inches to the floor and instead of getting out to get them, or heck, even leaning over to get them, she just leaves them there. She’s such a good little girl.
Her Mama took some pretty big big girl steps, too. I’ve stopped holding on to everything, to a crib to house that “someday” baby to the belief that Piper just wasn’t ready for all the changes that are so wonderful for a three year old. I realize she’s ready. She’s been ready. Now I am ready, too.