I’ve been a Bee since November of ’06. I blogged for the entire year leading up to my wedding (this was before you had to start blogging a certain amount of months before your wedding), and loved it. I loved our generation of bees: flowers, fruit and veggies. I also loved my fellow bees, and it seems that because we’ve all been dropped into a sort of “fame” we can relate to each other better than most people who have (in some cases) never met in person.
Then again, as with many groups of women, there is cattiness and snark behind the scenes in a few cases. I think this is normal. Honestly, I know for a fact people have talked about me. Does it bother me? In some instances, yes, because why wouldn’t it? In other cases, no, since it’s incredibly hard to know the real someone by just blog posts and message board messages. Do I love the bees any less? God no. Am I thrilled and honored to be a Bee? You bet your sweet ass.
I’m so excited that doing something I loved (blogging) got me connected to a group of women who continuously evolve, and grow. Look at me, for instance: I got married and had a baby. Are there other bees in the same spot? Yes! How lucky am I to have a built in group of friends who may (or may not) be in exactly the same period in their lives?
There isĀ a huge bee meetup in Las Vegas in a month. I . AM. SO. JEALOUS. I’m still trying to convince Paul to drive out there for a night, JUST so I can see Corn and Dumpling (other Bee mommies so we can get our munchkins together (are there any other mommies going along?), as well as Snow Pea, my non-related cousin who I have talked to for years now.
So, while some of my fellow bees may have been offended by the mention of Bees talking smack behind your back (sorry, it rhymed), I think it’s inevitable that a group of women THAT LARGE would avoid any smack. I’ve felt the brunt of it, and I’m not any more bitter than I would have been normally.
I love them like sisters, since I know that if I had a sister, I’d smack talk her constantly. Sadly, I was blessed with just a brother, and all my smack is futile.
Being a bee is like having a built in posse of gals waiting to kick ass for you, and comment on your blog if no one else does. When I was in the hospital having Piper, I felt nothing but support, and the rooting on was inspiring (that means you, Corn, I really enjoyed reading your comments).
February 2, 2010 at 3:31 pm
I feel the same exact way. I know there are some who have talked behind my back too, but that’s only natural in such a large group of women. While we are all part of a one-of-a-kind group filled with wonderful women, we can’t all be BFFs and I accept that.
P.S. – I too, am so very jealous that I can’t go to Vegas. Money is tight, and as much as I love the bees I would rather save up for the much-needed getaway for myself and my husband. We haven’t taken a single vacation since we got married 2 years ago!
February 2, 2010 at 6:45 pm
See, now I’m gonna cry. And I am seriously the most naive person on the planet because I had no idea anyone ever talked smack. Seriously.
Oh, and Little G will be staying home w/ daddy while I’m in Vegas…which means I will be trying my best not to freak out and stay in the hotel room the whole time trying to talk to them and convince both of them not to forget me.
February 2, 2010 at 7:47 pm
Being a bee has changed my life, as silly as that may sound. I have made amazing friends and discovered how much I truly love blogging and sharing my thoughts and creative finds with whoever will pay attention. It’s such fun to be part of such a wonderful circle of women.
I really, really hope that you can make it out to Vegas at some point! I would absolutely love to meet you!
February 3, 2010 at 2:27 am
I’m with you on the great jealousy of Vegas. But our baby’s first birthday is that weekend, and as much as WE’d love to have a few dozen extra “aunties” to help us celebrate, the grandparents would kill us if they missed the big day….
February 3, 2010 at 6:27 am
I too feel like being a “Bee” has been life-changing. I have loved following your blog and Piper is just too cute! Hope you can make it out to Vegas, but if not we’ll be thinking of you!
February 3, 2010 at 9:22 am
I’m also in the jealousy boat. Ulises and I thought we were going to be able to attend, but last minute work, and a lack of finances, left us unable to attend. SUPER BUMMED! I want to meet everyone!
February 3, 2010 at 9:59 am
I just now found this blog. How have I not known you were still blogging? I wanted to tell you that you were one of my first favorite bees. I loved that you were honest about not adoring your dress, because I ended up feeling that way, too. Please, please come out to Vegas. I would love to meet you and Piper!
I agree that some amount of cattiness is to be expected. It shocked me at first when I found out, but I’m more used to it now, though it still saddens me. But I agree with Liz that being a bee has been life-changing for me. I would never be living the way I am now if not for them!
February 3, 2010 at 12:47 pm
I am SO sharing in your jealousy of the Vegas trip! We couldn’t make it work right now either, and I am bummed
You are all right… being a bee is one of the most wonderful things I’ve ever done- and who knew the benefits would continue way past the wedding?
February 4, 2010 at 3:42 am
I agree with you completely about being a Bee. It is like a sisterhood, and having grown up with brothers as well, it’s great to have a group of strong independent women I can turn to.
We’ll miss you lots if you aren’t able to make it to Vegas!
February 17, 2010 at 11:38 am
I’m delayed – I just found your blog! Can you tell I’ve been one of the biggest slacker bees at staying in the loop?
Like everyone has said before me, being a bee is an incredible honor, and not just because you’re one of such a select few. It’s an instant acceptance into an amazing group of women.
There may be smack talking (although I can’t say it’s something I’ve encountered – maybe I was a subject of it!), but it’s just so minimal. By and large, it’s such a cool group to be a part of!